Were you ever picked on as a child for showing your emotions, being too sensitive or even for being a cry-baby? If you were, and even if you weren’t, you probably feel like being a sensitive person is a negative thing and that you wish you were “stronger”. You might apologise for crying or getting upset, and often say things like, “I’m sorry, I shouldn’t be so emotional.”
The thing is, whether people show their emotions or not, everyone has them.
Some people are afraid to express their emotions in fear of being vulnerable and appearing weak. We are often told that men shouldn’t cry and if they do they are being “too emotional”. Mothers sometimes feel that they can’t cry in front of their children because they need to be strong for them. Emotions such as sadness, fear, anger and frustration are viewed as “negative emotions”. However, there is no such thing as a negative emotion, nor a positive one. Emotions are just that; emotions, and it’s normal and okay to feel any of them at any given time.
You are not a weak or bad person if you feel sadness or hurt or anger.
You are just a person who feels, and allows yourself to feel. In fact, you are a strong person for doing so. Being vulnerable is not an easy thing to do, especially when it seems like no one else around you opens up that way. When you can free your emotions that aren’t so easy to talk about or confront, you become a stronger, wiser and more compassionate person.
Often when people sense that something is wrong, they want to give us a quick fix. We might be offered a pill or a drink or some advice, but usually what we need most is an attentive and listening ear. If you don’t feel like talking about something or at least not to the particular person you are with, that’s fine too. However, it’s important to still process feelings that are upsetting you so that you don’t harbour in them. For you, sitting down with a pen and paper just writing whatever comes to mind or going for a quiet walk in nature where you can be alone to think and process your feelings may give you the clarity and sense of ease you are looking for. Or if you just feel like a good old cry, you can do that too.
You may not be the type of person who cries easily or feels the need to do so and that’s totally okay. But if you are the kind of person who fights back tears when certain emotions come up, remember this; tears are made for a reason, and although crying doesn’t necessarily make all your problems go away, it DOES help release some of the energy from your upset and pain.
I will share with you now, I am a crier. Sometimes it’s like there’s a bucket filled to the top with water and the most surprising things will bump it over. But whenever I do let myself cry, that energy is released and whatever upset me is a lot easier to deal with. It may drain me and make me tired, but usually the next day I feel bright and have a renewed and positive energy to help me process whatever it is that is going on. A good cry really does help if you are a sensitive person. Don’t hold back your tears, because it only bottles them up for later and small situations suddenly become a big deal and over-reactions happen.
If you are a sensitive person, I just want to tell you, you are strong. You are anything but weak. Letting your emotions out and processing them in your own way is a sign of strength because you are confronting your feelings instead of sweeping them under the table.
I would like to clarify that I am not encouraging anyone to create drama and blow things out of proportion nor to be a negative person and complain about every small thing. I believe you can be a sensitive person and at the same time be quite positive and grounded. In fact, the more I have learnt to express and process my emotions, the more I am able to see things in a positive light and feel more stable when tough things come up in life. Also to clarify, expressing your emotions doesn’t always mean talking about them with someone, although that can certainly be helpful. The important thing is that you find a way that works for you to work through and understand your emotions so that they don’t become bottled up and ‘explode’ one day.
On a final note, I encourage you to embrace your sensitivity and work through your emotions as they come in. Don’t let anyone tell you that it’s not okay to feel. You are not a machine, you are a beautiful living soul who feels things deeply, and that is perfectly fine and normal.
If you need someone to talk to about your emotions and what is coming up for you in life right now, allow me to be your guide! I am a great listener 😉